Thursday, April 28

The Day I Made May Goals

On the day my student loan payments go back into play, I snail-mail my request for an additional 12-month deferment. They require "economic hardship" applicants to make less than 1,250 bucks a month, which I qualify for, both gladly and tragically. Which reminds me, I need to apply for poor-man's health insurance. 

Which leads me to my MAY GOAL LIST

1. Save money
2. Get Macbook hard-drive
3. Finish a short story (or two)
4. Gain teeth confidence
5. Get more tutoring experience
6. Read a book
7. Apply for Medicaid
8. Start a garden

I realized that if I saved all of my tips, I'd have an average 400 dollars of additional income each month. As of now, that money's all been spent on food and spurts of entertainment. Another goal of mine next month is to save at least 200 of that cash. Maybe I won't end up scraping the bottom of my bank account and emptying my savings this time. Maybe. No, damnit, YES.

Two things I've stopped doing: driving and buying weed. 

It's a start.

I've also started carrying around this little moleskin date-planner that I won't be using to plan dates, but rather to keep notes throughout the day, for my little observations and such. Here's what I wrote about today:

- Jessica is moving to Midtown this weekend, near Hot Italian, actually.
- Diana has a stalker.
- Meredith said Tim said there's been money missing from the closing-shift close-outs the past few nights, which I haven't been working, thankfully, and it's probably just another example of Old Soul's lackluster record keeping.
- Joe broke up with Jessica.
- Paul brought me Apple operating software.
- Saw Jenn (as in, old employee) at Rubicon.
- Drew and Amber were also at Rubicon, and Amber was very loud.

Jenny and I slept in a blanket fort. She's amazing.

My bike has a flat tire. Found a rusty staple in the wheel. FUCKING STAPLES! It's no big deal. I'll bring the bike over to John's shop before I go to work tomorrow. Wah, wah, wah. Speaking of them, they painted the building a neutral tree-brown color that looks nice. I still miss the painting of that woman with the sunglasses, which was erased a few months back, but maybe they'll add some artistic flair of their own. Fingers crossed. We need to drown this city in art. 

And fuck the Kings. JUST GO ALREADY! 

I hate over-publicized bullshit. See also: politics. 

That aside, Nick (Jenn's boyfriend, not Jenn my old employee, but Jenny's roommate, and not the waitress, Jennifer, from last night at the Rubicon) got a job at the State Capitol. Congratulations.

Jackie wants to organize a giant flash-mob water fight at McKinley Park sometime this May, and about this I am totally excited.


Regarding the Peace Corps, Sac State and all that jazz... I'm looking around for more serious tutoring jobs or teacher-training positions. Craigslist hasn't been the most useful resource. I sent out an application for a paid-tutoring position with Sacramento Children's Home. We'll see. I know there are a handful of teachers who pass through Old Soul daily, so I'll bump elbows with them a little more and see what's up on the down low. No one can turn down an unpaid volunteer tutor or teaching assistant. Otherwise, I should take Paul's advice and relax a little, not worry too much. Things are good and they're set to stay that way, so...

Yeah. Everything's fine.

- Left to Fry

Wednesday, April 27

The Day I Cancelled Car Insurance

My DMV-and-Back playlist:

1. "Repetition" - TV On The Radio
2. "Gratisfaction" - The Strokes
3. "When The Levee Breaks" - Led Zeppelin
4. "Thirst For Romance" - Cherry Ghost
5. "All The Young Dudes" - Mott the Hoople
6. "Ambling Amp" - Yeasayer
7. "Love My Way" - Psychedelic Furs
8. "Barnacles" - Ugly Casanova
9. "Evil" - Interpol
10. "The Killing Moon" - Pavement 

Total time on bike: 42 minutes.

I rode to the DMV after watching Source Code, which was, in my opinion, one of the better movies of the year so far. Perhaps the somewhat cheesy ending did spread its positive moral thick as chunky peanut-butter, but I still really dug it, so whatever. The movie happened after some internet browsing, some mouth washing and tooth brushing, and a bike ride home from Jenny's. Had one of those cool moments when the front gate was closing as I arrived home and I Indiana Jonesed my way through at the last second. Bad Ass Accomplishment of the Day: check. Made Jenny some Top Ramen (realizing, today, that the name of those noodles never seemed self-aggrandizing in any way, though I don't go around calling myself Top Chris) because she was feeling sick and that's pretty much my fault. We woke up and lazed about the blankets for a while. I don't remember falling asleep. Last night we walked to tea at Temple and confessed worries of becoming boring to each other, which cancelled out all fears entirely and last night I fell so far into love that I'm sometimes scared to admit it out loud, knowing it is becoming something I want to protect, that would hurt me to lose. Never been here, to this precipice of independence and connection. I'm encouraged to jump. I'm looking forward to the fall. 

We're going separate ways. Not tomorrow and not this summer, but eventually. Likely by March, but maybe not until Spring 2013, should Sac State require an additional semester. Knowing that--seeing that point on the timeline--leaves me with this most beautiful little pain in my heart. You figure you grow roses to see them bloom, to smell and love them, to admire and to touch and talk about and cherish. But the rose will die, likely in a vase on your kitchen counter, and we know this all the while, yet we feed the seeds, we water the roots, we trim the leaves. The loss is worth the wonder of the bloom. That's how I see Jenny. That's how I see every day that we'll get to share, from now until March or later. And what happens after? What will come from the mileage between us? I'm just as curious as you are. The bottom line is this: I'm happy. 

Crazy. Fucking crazy.

In related news, Jenny was told by her employers at the Academic Senate that she could either become a full-time, health-insured employee... or lose her job. They're trimming back and came to her first before making any drastic cuts. After talking it over dinner at Chipotle, Jenny seems decided on letting the Academic Senate go--she's put enough energy into a position she's never quite enjoyed, opposed to its monotonous creativity-sucking core. Now she can focus more on her freelancing for Healthy Cal and maybe pick up a social side-job. Good for her. Sometimes the hardest decisions to make we put off until the world demands an answer, and here she's just been waiting to lift a middle finger to the cubicle lifestyle. Jenn dragged us out to see her friends' band (Cold Eskimo) perform at Marilyn's and we drank a beer each and played a game of pool and had a brief, decent time before heading back to Jenny's, tired and still a little sick. 

So I've cancelled my car insurance. That's about 75 bucks I'll be saving each month, plus what I'm not spending on gas. I still need to get my own bike helmet, not to mention start using a helmet, and I need lights to prevent me from getting a ticket and/or getting hit by a bad driver. The Playstation Network is down. Donald Trump is picking on Obama. I bumped into Ashley at Old Soul before she left for Bows and Arrows' 1-Dollar Sale, and I passed her two bucks to buy something random for Jenny and me. She came back with these goodies: a straw sun hat and a computer-shaped coffee mug. Haven't been to tutoring since last Monday.

Here's to saving money and staying healthy. 


Also, I'm giving the new Speed of Sound in Seawater album a listen and I like it.

- Left to Fry

Tuesday, April 26

The Day I Considered The Value Of This Blog

I've put a lot of energy into this blog, and for what? It used to bother me that I was writing in this thing so much. That I concerned myself over the title image, the background color, the font and the framing. I still worry about these things. I still care, and it doesn't bother me anymore that I do. Everyone else and their mother is basically doing it. I think it's the healthiest thing we can do, both as individuals, but also as a species. Think of all the little details that we're sharing. Our little corners of the world. Who else can do that but ourselves? We are in charge of our history and we almost owe it to each other to convey what that feels like. We share to learn. We learn to grow. Here we think out loud in a place where everyone can listen.

I believe it when I tell people that writing a blog will change your life.

Sure there are still days when I feel unproductive. Sure there are responsibilities I still ignore. But for the most part, having a running blog has made me a better person. It's inspired me to experience. It's inspired me to experiment. The blog has served as a calendar to keep track of events, it has served as a therapist when I was awake at two a.m. with too much on my mind. It's been a coach on the sideline. It's been motivation to follow through with promises I make myself. It empowers me to create my own world and be proud of the things I do so that I can write about them, share them, and inspire others to do the same.

I have always wondered how to be the change I want to see in the world. But this is how. By writing openly. By yearning for good and fighting for it through reality's ever-thickening plot. For being the character I'd want to read about and doing the things I'd look for in a story. I can be whatever I want to be and write it so. I will do these things and more because life is my novel and there's nothing worse than getting to the final page and being disappointed. 

That said, Jenny's out getting sushi with her friend Julia. I'm a little high after sending a resume to an SAT English tutoring position, knowing very little about this operation, simply grabbing at another bullet-point on my resume. I know I'm going to Sac State no matter what. I know the Peace Corps is, basically, a given outcome of that. I'm set on that. But I want to get the hell away from coffee as soon as possible. The trouble is I need a job. The trouble is I kind of like my job, for the most part. But is it good for me? Is it the smart job for me, right now, 3,500 dollars in debt and awaiting student loan deferment for the second time? 

No. 

Anyway, Jenny's been having it hard with the post-college adjustments. I understand the feeling. Life after college is nothing like you'd expect. I think the only kids who don't freak out after college are the ones who don't stop, who go on to become doctors and professors right away, who don't stop and take a breath. Because once you surface from 16 years of education, you see how polluted the water really is. It's a beautiful world, don't get me wrong, but after college we really see and feel the violence of it, the unfairness, the mindless games that run the corporate sphere and our stupid dependence on it, the apparent lack of creative outlets and society's dismissal of them, the negativity and the taxes. It's a scary place. It's full of responsibility and decision making and successes and failures. It's different without a class schedule. It's different without teachers. We're all supporting each other now, as adults playing the game, filling and fighting our roles. No one knows why and no one knows how it all works, but it's all we've got. This is what we face after college. Some strange game of chance and opportunity and dreams. We all want some happiness, some happy place to end up, and how we'll get there we don't yet know, and perhaps none of us know, and when we think we do we find out it's something else entirely. Know it's all temporary and perhaps you will enjoy even the downfalls more. Know it's all temporary and perhaps you'll want to write about it, more now than ever because what will you do when you forget it ever happened? 

I've been listening to "When The Levee Breaks" on repeat while writing this.

I've almost posted 200 posts. 

I've followed myself from Carmichael to Midtown and I'll follow myself through grad school into the Peace Corps. I'll follow it until Blogger gets bought by Apple and turned into a Pay-Per-Post service. I might as well. Perhaps there will be phases where I write less, where life denies me the time or patience to write, but I can't see myself letting go of this any time soon. It's been good for me. It's made me honest. It's made me connect to people. It's made me push forward.

I opened with Nick on the register and we listened to a classic rock Pandora station for most of the day. Then Zoe didn't know she had to close today and I couldn't get a hold of her, so I took an hour break and came back at 3:00 to cover her shift. Luckily she found her phone after helping her brother move and was able to come in soon afterward and relieve me. I went out to CVS and bought mouthwash and shampoo. Then Jenny came by and we talked about her mindstate and I held her and she stretched a bit and we didn't come up with any easy answers for the post-college depression that hits us in the months after leaving that nest. It just happens. It's 16 years of education, done. Just like that. Either you've got your shit together or you don't and you figure it out along the way like most people. 

Yesterday I went with Jenny to dinner at her Dad's house on a golf course in the middle of nowhere (near Roseville). Played Wii with Luke for most of the beginning while Jenny and her family worked on a bee-replica built entirely out of recyclable materials (Luke's science project). Next it was hamburgers and a tour of the house and a half hour of television with the grandparents. Nice people, all of them. I admire their spirit and humor. I was still sick so I didn't say a whole lot and was finding it hard to breathe. Still had a good time. Jenny stayed over, though that probably wasn't the healthiest choice, and we both slept poorly. 

Coming up next: I put my car in PNO and cancel my car insurance, Loren turns 13 in May, Foster the People come to Harlow's in June, Jenny goes to visit Montana in July, Sac State orientation in August, school starts in September, and everything in between and after.

- Left to Fry

Saturday, April 23

The Day I Reflected On The Railroad Revival Tour And San Francisco Adventure


By the time I fell asleep in Jenny's passenger seat at 11:30pm, not long after leaving The City, I knew that the next day was going to be difficult. I would be sore, under-slept, exhausted, and otherwise completely hungover after spending the past 34 hours on a concert road-trip with Jenny in the Bay Area. I expected this, yet I also knew it was worth it. The little headache, the eight used-up AA batteries, the sore back, the hole ripping in the toes of my Toms... Who knew I'd ever eat so much Asian food in one day? I fell asleep curled awkwardly toward the door, ensnared in the seatbelt, tired muscles trembling, and when I woke up in Sacramento, Jenny dropped me off at my house and I stumbled up to bed to sneak in a couple Z's before work. 

I feel better, now. I've taken a nap and rested. 

My Toms still show their new sign of wear-and-tear. My body is still a little sore. Part of me still wants to be asleep. I'm realizing that the healing process is getting harder. Sure I didn't get a whole lot of sleep, and part of it took place in a car, but I'm pretty sure I've been able to handle worse in the past. I worry sometimes that despite being excited about the process of growing old, I might be slow to recognize that it's actually happening, that I'll wake up one day with this unfortunate pain that never goes away. I'm generally oblivious to the signals of my own body. My knee, thankfully, has ceased to ache so I'm still capable of recovering from minor ailments, which means I'm not quite "old" enough to worry.

Jenny meets me Thursday at Old Soul in the early afternoon in a black-and-white striped dress, a white blouse, leg-warmers and big pair of summer sunglasses. I'm in blue flannel with a gray undershirt (Colorado University's logo hidden behind the button-up) and jeans with the bottoms rolled up once to not get caught beneath the ripped heels of my worn burlap shoes. I'm reading a little more of "Whatever It Takes," getting inspired, getting curious about charter schools, and we head out immediately for lunch at Buckhorn and a dessert from Trey B Cakes.

Then we're on the road, Jenny at the wheel, a tri-tip sandwich in my hands. In Davis, Jenny pulls off the freeway and we switch positions so she can eat her tri-tip salad. Gates open for the Railroad Revival Tour at 5:00pm and it's pushing 4:00. We make it to Oakland and then the Google maps app goes mentally insane and my phone battery dies and our blue dot is slow to refresh, so we get temporarily lost in this urban decay near the docks and make a few u-turns until finding our way toward the shuttle pick-up parking zone. By the way, we're at the dock, so we're surrounded by huge trucks and towers of shipping crates and chain-linked fences and train-tracks crossing the flat four-lane numbered roads. It's a quick ride on a bus to the venue and Jenny says, "I thought this concert sold out. Where are all the people?" But once we're moved like cattle into the line, it's a little more obvious how big this crowd is going to get. Big variety of characters. Young and old. Hip and formal. We slowly make the penguin shuffle into the gates and here Middle Harbor Shoreline Park opens up before us to reveal a tent-city food court, a large metal fire-sneezing snail, a steam-engine replica with appropriate whistle sound-effects, an army of porta-toilets and the all-important Beer Garden. We meander. We people watch. We wish we had our cameras. We drink beer. We wonder who's got weed. We eat: her a burger, me chili fries. We use the bathrooms and go find space on the lawn. Old Crow Medicine Show opens. Good energy. Great folk music. Girl in front of us loves them, dancing between sips from a flask she smuggled in her boot. Easy to get your feet stepped on. The only song I know is "Wagon Wheel." When they finish, Jenny and I look about the venue again. Sun begins to set. Decent weather, a tad cold, but bearable. The crowd is still growing, people still coming in through the front gates, getting ID's checked, flooding the Beer Garden. Maybe this is when we ate that food. Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros are playing. The sound is bad, almost sounds like a recording. Lead singer sounds drunks. Still good to hear, though we only see the set from a distance. They won the crowd over at the end with their staple, "Home," and cleared the stage for Mumford and Sons. Jenny and I squeezed and pushed our way back into the thick, stubborn crowd of everyone else who only really bought tickets because Mumford and Sons was headlining. It's dark. The lighting is better. The sound is better. We're thirty feet from stage-left and there are lots of tall people, but we can see alright. Mumford and Sons come out and they steal the show. They make worth it the drive, the cold weather, getting lost, eating cheap over-priced food and finding space to breathe surrounded by four thousand screaming fans. Everyone sings along. Every knows all the words, or thinks they do, and at least everyone knows all the choruses. They finish with "The Cave," but each song was played with equal fuck-yes enthusiasm, as though they were playing each track for the last time. Afterward, all three bands came on stage for an encore rendition of "This Train is Bound for Glory," and that was pretty epic. Jenny and I made our way back to the porta-toilets before heading out with the others to wait for our shuttle to take us back to the car. I got back behind the wheel and, unsurprisingly, the iPhone got us lost again on the way to the freeway. It's not a road-trip if you don't get turned around, however, so we didn't panic. A detour later, we're heading toward The City with Mumford and Sons songs stuck in our heads, aching muscles, smiles and excitement for our oncoming adventure.

Two or three hours later, I'm in the hallway bathroom puking in the toilet, shirtless, just wearing my pajama pants, with a glass of water on the tile beside me. This is awkward. I'm trying to be discreet about it, but puke does what puke does, so I just get it over with and drink some water. For about five minutes, I rest on the tiles and have a dialogue with my body. Are you done yet? I think so. Are you sure? Ask again later. With Jenny waiting in our room across the hall, I get up and deal with it. Thankfully I'm actually feeling totally better, so I get back into bed with Jenny and we sleep much more comfortably tonight than we did in that hotel in Santa Cruz two months ago. I think it was the chili cheese fries that did it. And the beer. And the jumping around and hollering. By the way, the hotel is awesome. The Mosser. It's designed a little like a hostel with the shared hallway bathroom and shower. In our room: a sink, mirror, closet, bed and television, with a window that overlooks a sub-level garage entrance, the windowed wall of a neighboring building full of office-chairs and boardroom tables, and a sliver of 4th street eight stories below.

We wake up early and gather ourselves together before heading out to start our adventure. First stop, the lamest place in the whole city, as Jenny put it: Walgreens. I buy a new pair of sunglasses because I left mine in Jenny's valet-parked car, and she picks up a thing of chapstick. During a stroke of genius, I took a sampling of hair-gel to fix up my hair. We venture further into the maze and start to soak it all in. The people, the smells, the characters, the stores, the cultures, the languages, the skyscrapers and the slums. There's so much more around us than we ever experience in a singular Sacramento moment. When Jenny says, "Look at that thing over there," and I turn to look, there are a million things she might be pointing at. Finding one non-interesting thing to look at is like trying to find Waldo in the candy-cane factory. 

Every time I've been to San Francisco, I've wanted to wrap my hands around a lamp-post, lock my fingers together, and shout, "You can't make me leave!" But tomorrow I have to open at Old Soul. Tonight we have to leave for our normal day-to-day, so that means we have to make the most out of today. Sure it involves a lot of stop-and-shop, but hardly any moment feels wasted. We hear good music everywhere. We meet rude people, polite people, old people and young. We bump shoulders with strangers in souvenir shops. We step around strangers taking photographs of posing couples, posing families. We visit a church and see where the higher-powers sit. Drink coffee. Eat Chinese food in China-Town in a restaurant filled with Chinese people celebrating a wedding or something. We'll get noodles later in a dim hole-in-the-wall joint with sexy red lighting and hip-hop on the radio. I buy suspenders. Jenny almost buys very expensive boots. We climb hills, many hills, some with staircases, some surrounded by buildings and some surrounded by trees. We visit a park and appreciate this oasis amid the concrete, get high at the peak where I look up in the sky and see the hole in the ozone while Jenny paints her nails. There's a one-man-band street performer who puts on a good show and later gets told to leave by a bunch of cops. The metro. A mall. We take a stoned wander toward Haight and Ashbury and find a French textbook being given away by a French woman helping her daughter move to New York. Tres bien. There are giant hearts, graffiti, book stores, homeless people selling newspapers, cable cars and pigeons everywhere. We end up at Amoeba, where Jenny buys the Bon Iver album and we meet her friend, Jason, who makes enough at his software job to afford 1700 a month for a hardwood floor apartment near a perfect little stretch of city life. I liked the guy. Sort of reminds me of my old roommate, Bryce. He introduces us to the view from Twin Peaks, which is a great way to watch the sunset after spending all the daylight hours wandering that sprawling concrete field. Afterward we meet up with Jason's friend and coworker, AJ, in a red sweater outside of Jason's apartment. Upstairs we absently watch TV and get stoned and AJ's never used a bong and Jenny finds some magnet toy to play with and Jason talks about the nearly indiscernible flaws he's found in his television, which lets me know we'd totally get along. At this point, however, I'm glad to take back-seat to other characters because that headache is starting to form and I'm completely exhausted, so I don't say a whole lot and don't make a big effort to be social, but I think it works out alright, and I think from the blank stare on my face it's pretty obvious that I'm already half-asleep. A few minutes later, Jason's other friend, Ryan, who is up visiting for the weekend from San Diego, one of Jason's oldest friends, arrives at the apartment and now that we've got a posse, we head out to play pool at an Ethiopian bar. After some douchebags with drunk girlfriends finish taking too many turns, Jason and Ryan win the table and then the five of us share a game before Jenny and I decide to leave. It's been a fun outing and everyone's nice and friendly, but we really should've left like four hours ago. Maybe thirty minutes later, after a series of poor iPhone directions, we're crossing the Golden Gate and heading home. 

I wake up once when Jenny stops to get gas and chugs a Rockstar. 

Then it's Saturday and the vacation is over. Life in Sacramento had gone on normally. Nick did a really lazy close the night before, so that was annoying to start the day with. Shaun had to work his first barista opening-shift yesterday because Meredith was apparently sick and it was really busy. Hank is back working as the Old Soul driver, and happy to have a job again. Weatherstone was closed down by the health inspector, for now. Drew seems down about his relationship, again. I was fairly fed-up with customer service today, mostly on account of being tired, but San Francisco always wakes up this restlessness in me that reminds me that there are so many places in this world left for me to experience, and standing behind a coffee-shop counter for eight hours is hardly helping me get to them. Grr. But I finish my shift. I tell Nick my complaints about his close and my "Do Unto Others" approach doesn't work, but at least I said something, and he apologizes later by promising to smoke me out. Then it's a nap to regain my sanity and a text to Jenny and a review of all the photos (there were a lot). This leads to a visit from Jenny and her posse, dinner at Hot Italian and an earlier bedtime because now I've got a cough to take care of and tomorrow it's Easter dinner with Jenny's parents. 

































































































 

































 




And the story continues...

- Left to Fry